Behind Closed Doors Sex Sells

Posted by admin on Aug 22nd, 2010 | 0 comments

The tabloid perception of the Net as a place populated by pornographers, teenage hackers bent on world domination and petty criminals can sometimes seem uncomfortably close to the truth. Recent statistics show that people pay out twice as much for online pornography as they do for all other subscription based Internet services combined.

Although it’s easy to get infuriated when the mainstream media portray the web as some kind of virtual Sodom and Gomorrah, there’s no denying that a lot of commerce on the Net is decidedly dodgy. The kinds of enterprise that operate in back alleyways and behind closed doors in real life are singing, dancing and stripping down to a G-string all over the web, and they’re raking in money hand over fist while other dotcoms are clearing their desks.

Why is it that activities that are relegated to the seedier parts of the real world are doing some of the web’s biggest business? The easiest answer is ‘because they can’, but there’s more to it than that. There’s more than just the anonymity of accessing porn sites while you’re sitting in your pajamas or the illicit thrill of having a flutter with your credit card while your partner watches TV in the next room. Why are some things acceptable on the Net when they’re forbidden elsewhere?

One of the reasons is that one culture’s clandestine pleasure is another’s bread and butter, and the Net is an International phenomenon. Betting is illegal in most US states but in Nevada, an exception to this rule, they turned a tiny desert town called Las Vegas into a garish city of theme-park dimensions dedicated to mammon.

All over the world there are enclaves where doing naughty things is the norm. In Amsterdam marijuana is available to buy and smoke in licensed cafes. It is estimated that in Hong Kong 60% of all software is pirated, while Bangkok is often referred to as the world’s sex industry.

The high incidence of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases has made cyber sex even more appealing. There are loads of sex-related sites on the Net. Not all of them are pornographic.

What all these places have in common, besides the obvious, is that the main consumers of the services they supply are almost always tourists. People travel thousands of miles to these places because they know that a blind eye will be turned to whichever morally ambiguous behavior they choose to indulge in. But why trek halfway across the world when all these illicit diversions can come to you?

It isn’t strictly the anonymity of the web that’s the attraction, and the ambiguous nature of International Internet legislation is a catalyst rather than a justification. The main benefit is that the Net lets you bring a little of the underworld into your own home, in conditions where you’re in control and where you can feel safe.

Sex Sells

The Net is filled with porn. You can’t switch on your computer without a pneumatic nymphet thrusting her extremities at you while a virus infects your hard disk, steals your credit card details, sells your children drugs, and burns down your house. The truth about sex on the Net is that while we all know it’s there, it isn’t really as obvious or insidious as Mr. Outraged thinks. You have to go looking for it. Statistics show a lot of Net users do.

Sex & the City and the Jack Rabbit

Posted by admin on Aug 16th, 2010 | 0 comments

The title catches your eye off the bat and puts you in a particular mindset if you’re familiar with the popular contemporary TV show Sex & The City and the vibrator known as the Jack Rabbit. Don’t worry, if you’re reading this, you’re not going to get an explanation on the vibrator or the sentiments that the show often portrays about what is healthy sexually speaking for the stars.

However, it is noteworthy, for the purpose of making a line of demarcation between what is portrayed on television versus what is real and truly satisfying when it comes to a healthy sexual relationship.

Television tends to glamorize sex and such toys to a disproportionate extent. Love is often equated with lust and misinterpreted as a constant and unending need for sexual intercourse with changing partners, also considered as promiscuous. Whether it is glorified on television as being what is normal, it should be clearly understood that what television portrays as being of sexual satisfaction bears little if any resemblance to the truth.

What viewers sometimes forget is that television stars are paid to perform a role, an act. It is a job, something they do for money. If the role requires an actress to smoke a cigarette, even if she does not smoke, she will pretend to puff the cigarette because the role calls for it.

How sex is portrayed on television is no different and trying to recreate sexual scenes from television in a marriage can often lead to disappointment, frustration and disillusionment because what has been witnessed on television is just an act.

The earth shattering orgasms and virtually endless sexcapades are also an act. Keeping the spark alive in your marriage and sex life is not about trying to recreate what you’ve seen on television but about making your own happiness with realistic expectations of each other.

Arousal and intimacy, in real life, have limitations. No one is a true constant sex machine. Appreciate the times when you are feeling desires towards your mate and vice versa and respect the occasions when you or your mate may not be feeling any arousal or intimacy. Don’t determine the worth of your sexual relationship by the number of orgasms but by the degree of satisfaction each of you feels.

Keep communication in the bedroom and the bed. Don’t expect your mate to read your mind and know what will please you. Talk about trying new things and admit if they work or if they don’t. Be willing to experiment but don’t destroy your bedroom furniture trying to enact a scene from a movie that was staged on a set to begin with.

When it comes to adult toys such as vibrators, there are thousands of different types. If you and your spouse are interested in trying such an adult toy, go ahead. But make a wise choice based on mutual interest, not television program antics. Be adventurous enough to try something once and if it doesn’t work, be willing to try something else new.