Why chemicals in our blood intensify our sex addiction problem

Posted by admin on Sep 3rd, 2010 | 0 comments

Our body is designed in a way so that we can do numerous task at the same time without any confusion. Imaging we have to do many tasks at the same time such as breathing, making sure our heartbeat is in perfect symphony, seeing, thinking, walking, balancing and etc and etc. And if our body do not have a system to automate each one of them so we do not need to think of what to do every single time we do them we will be in serious trouble. You do not have to tell your body how to breathe or tell your heart to beat. It is done automatically. Our brain also allows us to function in a way that when you repeatedly do a task again and again, you will built and strengthen a neural connection in your brain. Thus when this neural connection reaches a certain thickness, your task becomes automated when there is a trigger. Connected to this reasoning when you stop doing this task for a long time, your neural connection will get thinner and thinner and its power over you will diminish.

An example would be when someone learns to play the piano. Initially it is very tough as a lot of effort have to be put into learning all the musical notes and the various right finger movements. But if one puts in a lot of effort and practice about 5 hours everyday. In about 6 months’ time, he will be able to play without much conscious effort as the neural connection for playing the piano and certain songs thicken. But once you have stopped playing piano for a long time such as a few years, your neural connection will get smaller and your ability to play will be affected.

Another analogy is the muscles in your body. If you keep training your particular muscles day in and day out, eventually your muscles will get thicker and stronger. Similarly if you stop training for a long time, your muscle will get thinner and weaker.

Thus your addiction is in a way related to this. The reason you get addicted is because you keep masturbating to a picture, movie or what you imaging again and again. And to further strengthen your “addiction” you sealed it up with a strong exciting emotion of orgasm (in chemical term it is know as a strong blast of dopamine – one of the blood chemistry that your body produces when you are excited) Thus every time you do this, you strengthen the neural connection of masturbation with the various images, videos, exciting sounds, exciting emotions such as orgasm. Another part of this addiction is when you are in the “ritual”, that is, when you are anticipating, imagining and especially if it is illegal or you are doing it secretly. These “ritual” will produce an adrenaline and dopamine rush which creates a super high feeling and an association or strengthening of the neural which the most powerful as it is emotionally charged.

Thus you will realize that after a while you do not know why every time you see an image be it a short skirt, undergarment, a beautiful lady, some perfume or something you have seen during your internet cruising, you suddenly feel a strong urge to do something such as masturbation or to go and search for that particular image or video. This is the result of the neural connection you have built up. Once this thick neural connection is triggered, there is no way to stop as nature has built in a system that never fails. This is supposedly to make sure our human kind will continue to exist and it is known as procreation or in our common definition “sex”. But we humans have misused this and it has turned into a vicious cycle of masturbation, internet surfing, watching pornography, taking irrational risk related to these, searching for naked images and etc.

One more point to further emphasize this is that some addiction such as shoplifting, gambling, Pedophilia, exhibitionism and etc produce an abnormally high feeling and a strong rush due to the dangerous and risk taking nature of these activities. The higher the risk or danger, the higher the natural drug adrenaline and dopamine are generated by our brain. The beautiful sensations of high is so great that the person don’t even care if this may result in them getting arrested, fired from their job, risking their marriage, risking their reputation and etc. This explained why some high profile people are caught with shoplifting, finding prostitute, exhibitionism, pedophilism and etc. Example will be rich movies stars shoplifting despite being filthy rich (They do not need the things they steal as they clearly can afford it but are just going for the adrenaline and dopamine high that the danger of being caught creates)

Thus having all these knowledge will at least provide you with some solution to get yourself cured, you need to stay away from all this activities for a long time in order for the neural connections to become thinner and weaker. It is at least a start in the right direction.

Saying is easier than doing it. But at least now that you know what causes this uncontrollable urge to do things even though you are a nice, sensible and rationale person.

But you will realize that the first few weeks are going to be the hardest. You realized that to have a long and lasting cure in any thing, it usually will take longer and harder. It’s like if you want to build a strong and tall building, you need to make sure your foundation is very good. The only way to have a strong and healthy foundation is that you have to do a very good job and with proper materials. This will usually translate into a least a few weeks of painstaking piling and foundation building. Once done, you can build a tall building on it and it will last virtually forever for all to marvel. If someone were to tell you that you don’t have to spend so much time to build a foundation at all and you can do it in a day’s time, you can imagine what will happen to the building eventually.

Please if you want good result, apply it slowly and steadily. Never haste. All haste and you will lose your way. You have to understand that you have taken many months or many years to build up your neural connection. It has become so thick that it can probably hold billion of cells. You will not expect it to be cured in a few days, weeks or even months?
You will need more then that! The first 2 months will be the hardest and subsequent month it will be easier but still hard.

An analogy of this is the launch of rocket into the sky. Do you know that the rocket need the biggest push to escape the earth’s strong gravitational force before it can reach the outer space where the force is weaker and thus is able to cruise forward with a smaller force. This is exactly what happens when you first start to quit your internet addiction. But as you push forward, you will discover that it gets easier and easier.

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Posted by admin on Nov 12th, 2009 | 0 comments

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