Handsome hunk, actor Martin, who pumped iron at a gym and was a regular pub-hopper, suddenly found himself with no desire for sex. Enquiry revealed that he used anabolic steroids, abused his body by drinking, smoking and eating out every day. His body buckled under these bingeing sessions, lowering his libido and affecting his sexual performance. Several others are today afflicted by similar lifestyle disorders, affecting their sex life and relationships. Sexual energy moves through the psyche (mind) and the body. If it’s channelised elsewhere, it will not flow in sex, thus reducing the sexual drive in a person. Low libido is the result of the diversion of psychic energies. Diversion if energies could have reasons ranging from physical, emotional and mental to social and even spiritual. So, it is important to diagnose the reason and take corrective measures to improve libido.
DON’T ABUSE YOUR BODY
It may not be evident, but wearing tight undergarments compresses the testicles which produce the hormone testosterone, lowering its production. Low levels of the hormone lead to low libido. Use of anabolic steroids too adversely affects the libido, as also other forms of abuse. In smokers, nicotine damages the arterial lining, making it attract cholesterol, thus narrOwing the arteries. Therefore, the blood flowing to the sex organs is less, and affects the erection in men. Many believe that alcohol aids arousal. The reality is that alcohol might initially relax you enough to create some sexual arousal, but excessive consumption actually results in lowering the sexual drive.
Alcohol affects the liver function adversely, and the hormone testosterone is activated in the liver. Moreover, if you suffer from borderline diabetes, alcohol makes it worse. An unhealthy diet comprising oily, high-caloric, sugar-laden foods could result in high cholesterol which narrows arteries, restricts blood flow and affects sexual performance. If one is suffering from hypertension (high blood pressure) due to wrong food habits and obesity resulting from the same and uses anti-hypertensive medication, one might suffer from the side-effect of a lowered libido. Keeping late nights and parrying till the wee hours of the morning result in erratic sleep patterns and accumulated fatigue, which adversely affect libido.
FOR IMPROVED LIBIDO, YOU NEED:
· Adequate sleep.
· Healthy diet.
. Abstinence from excessive smoking and drinking.
· A fitness regime.
. To avoid steroids and anti-depressants.
DIRECT YOUR ENERGIES WISELY
Due to stressful lifestyles, psychic energies are also diverted into emotions like anxiety and depression. If one’s energies are locked up in worrying about performance evaluations on the job, competing with colleagues for promotions, and being on the lookout for better opportunities, not much psychic energy is available to flow into sex. High conflict levels between the husband and wife too result in stressful emotions, leading to lowered libido. Use of anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications to combat stress is another cause.
Both investment banker Andrew and mutual fund manager David were distressed by their low libido. While the adrenalin rush that came from the handling of monies was so great that, to Andrew, sex paled in comparison, David was so stressed with market fluctuations, which swayed his clients’ fortunes, that he was left mentally and emotionally fatigued. Today double-income couples find no leisure to unwind and connect as a couple. Any time together is spent on household chores, planning home/car loan payments, discussing economics, or work-related issues. Therefore, the psychic energies of both are locked in preoccupations other than connecting sensually, thus lowering libido in both.
TO ADD THE SIZZLE BACK:
· Consciously plan a weekend getaway.
· Make a pact to not discuss work during the holiday.
· Make time for each other, at least a few minutes every day in the morning and evening.
· Cut down on unnecessary chores to get more free time together.
STOP BEING A SUPERWOMAN
Malvika was excessively preoccupied with her duties towards her in-laws and extended family and coping with a hectic social life, throwing parties and attending them too. She was also anxious about her role as a mother and her children’s performance at school. Parents who have moved away from naturally loving and instinctive parenting become emotional wrecks who are torn between showcasing their kids and being unconditionally loving parents. With psychic energies being diverted towards stressful parenting, low libido is a definite fall-out.
FOR STRESS-FREE PARENTING AND BETTER SEX:
· Focus on living sane, balanced and loving inner and outer lives.
· Don’t get bogged down by parenting pressures.
· Don’t pile too much on your plate.
· Do your best, forget the rest.
· Give up trying to please everybody.
· Be kind to yourself.
OTHER CAUSES OF LOW LIBIDO
VOWS OF CELIBACY
People who surrender to the philosophies of some spiritual cults that encourage you to take the vow of celibacy, could gradually start experiencing low libido as they sublimate their urges in prayer, rituals and service-oriented activities. The bottom line is that wherever you channelise your psychic energies, they will gradually flow in that direction.
PSEUDO LOW LIBIDO
There is also the entity of a pseudo low libido, which is only reported by the partner of one who ‘claims’ to have a low libido. Banker Susan reported a virtually non-existent sexual life between her and her husband. Her husband Roger reported that he did not have any sexual urge ‘with his wife’ and therefore did not initiate sex. His words ‘with his wife’ gave him away. Roger only ’seemed’ to have a low libido, which was not the reality. He was obviously resorting to other outlets for his sexual urges. He later admitted to self-pleasuring with fantasies of other women, which he claimed gratified him more than the ’sexual exercise’ with his wife.
SELF-PLEASURING AND PORNOGRAPHY
The internet is getting many people hooked to a lifestyle of sex chatting and self-pleasuring by viewing porn sites. Also, there is a remarkable increase in affairs at the workplace, people travelling on the job and using ‘escort services’ in foreign lands. A hectic work schedule with one foot at the airport and one at home is also getting people engaged more in self-pleasuring in fantasy with or without the aid of porn, as a routine, as it is ‘more convenient’. These are not actual cases of low libido but only perceived as such by their partners, as they engage their libido elsewhere.
All in all, your lifestyle is responsible for your low libido. Only a wholesome change in your lifestyle can help you restore balance in every aspect of your life. So, identify the cause, take corrective measures and rediscover your sexual pleasures.
Michael Douglas is a couples’ therapist and a relationship expert, who also runs websites http://www.loversmanual.com and http://www.datersmanual.com. Recently, he has launched another website Lovers-Lounge.com for singles and married couples who need new and refreshing ideas to rejuvenate their love life and relationships.

It is now possible to watch live sex shows through live video chat services. You can get several benefits from a live sex show. This is one of the best forms of social entertainment that you can watch from the comforts of your home. But there is more to live sex chat than being a special form of entertainment. It can actually improve the quality of your life. You can enjoy the pleasures of worldly happiness simply by taking advantage of live video chat services provided by online gentlemen’s club.
Probably you are a very busy man. Your life is devoted purely to work, more work and still more work. If you continue living like this, you will find yourself aging too fast. You can also suffer from stress related disorders and diseases. That is why it is important for you to find time for your personal enjoyment. But because of your hectic schedules, sometimes it is impossible to go to a men’s club to relax and unwind. In such cases, you will find online live sex shows extremely valuable. You can access a live sex show after your working hours. Simply sit in your bedroom and enjoy the sexy show in live video chat.
Sexy live video chat therefore can be a very powerful stress reliever. You can sit back, take your favorite drink with you and start watching a live sex show online. You will certainly get the relaxation you want so you can have more energy for the next day’s work. With a live video chat, you are also not limited to watching a live sex show. You can also interact and communicate with the nude model. In other words, you can also socialize with a very beautiful lady while enjoying her nude company. You can ask her what she likes to do and request what you want from her. After your session, your stress will definitely go away.
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Discussing about sex is no more being looked as a taboo. In fact people young and old have been involved in sex chat all over the world. With Internet being so widely used today, there is a lot of scope for everyone to login to some adult chat rooms and take pleasure in sex chat with other members of the forum. The Internet is flooded with these adult chat rooms where one can chat either by becoming a member or as a guest. The average conversation going on in sex chat rooms are those steamy exciting stuff and are aimed at allowing people to live their fantasies through some sexy chats.
Many people are generally very shy to open up when it comes to sexy topics. But in a sex chat room you can maintain total anonymity about yourself and indulge in any kind of adult chat pertaining to sex. Every one of us has a lot of sexual fantasies. Discussing about these sexual fantasies in a sex chat room can relieve a lot of stress.
In an adult chat room indulging in sex chat will make you comfortable to live out these fantasies with your partner. Sex chat with different people online will make you aware of other kind of fantasies which you may not have known otherwise. In a sex chat room you are free to let yourself out and chat whatever you feel like pouring your whole heart out. All these put together you might be able to rediscover yourself with diverse personalities.
People indulging in sex chat in adult chat rooms feel that it is much safer to meet strangers as sexual partners online in a much secure environment as compared to meeting people in a bar or a pub where you may be at the risk of being misbehaved by someone. These virtual adult chat rooms indulging in sex chat are favorite hangouts for not only single people, but also young and old couples to find people they find convenient to chat with.
The best part for people having sex chat in adult chat rooms is that you don’t have to expose your real self. You can maintain your anonymous status for as long as you wish. You don’t need to disclose about your whereabouts at all. You can choose some nickname for yourself and upload any picture you like which may not necessarily be yours. You are free to converse to whomever you like and also are at the liberty to stop whenever you feel like.
A lot of sex chat rooms allow webcams and microphones for adults to have fun. You can invite your partner to a private chat room where you can use the webcam to carry on your fantasies. There is no time binding too and you can go on for as long as you like. Most of these sex chat rooms have a free access. However, there are a few for which you need to pay up.
So all you adults who are bored with your routine sex life, here is a perfect alternative for you to make your life cheerful again!
Chat rooms are evolving as good places for adult chat. Here one can indulge in sex chat, with people without disclosing their identity.

“Technology, like art, is a soaring exercise of the human imagination”, Daniel Bell, the U.S. sociologist once said.
A Virtual World (VW) is a computer-based simulated environment intended for its users to inhabit and interact via avatars. Some of the popular virtual worlds includes Second Life, there, the palace, Virtual Magic Kingdom, Cybertown, Dreamville and Dubit.
Recently, virtual worlds have been getting increasing attention from different types of people. They are gamers, housewives, artists, musicians, programmers, lawyers, firemen, political activists, college students, business owners, active duty military overseas, architects, and medical doctors, to name just a few.
Ways in which enterprises might use virtual worlds for everyday business range from setting up a virtual meeting place to aid employee collaboration, to a business-to-consumer model where firms maintain a virtual store selling items that are delivered in the real world. VW are beginning to be used as a substitute for face-to-face meetings as a way of keeping the vital personal aspect to business communications. Advertisers put in the picture that advertising can be more than web rectangles on web pages.
Second Life (SL) is a three dimensional virtual world where users assume an identity and take residence. In SL residents are able to buy property, attend class, go bowling, starts business, hang out have sex even go to live music performance at SL synagogue. People are able to get church services in SL through lifechurch.tv. The big question is would you attend church virtually? Is it worthy?
Human beings are social animals, and we have never had a medium to be social in. VW are a social medium that can accomplish this. Some people have become so absorbed in VW that they stop living their own lives. Recent Stanford study showed that, 40% of men and 53% of women who play online games said their virtual friends were equal or better than their real friends.
Paying money to buy virtual products in an online world might seem odd and one of the major worries is the risk of security flaws that might expose business-critical information. While Second Life money can be converted into USD, money stolen in VW can have a real world implication? Is it a crime?
Love is a bit complicated in relationship to VW in a sense that, while your loved one may not be involved in a physical relationship with someone else, if they are getting their needs of love virtually will you account that as cheating?
Some of the people have managed to become rich in real life based on the VW. Anshe Chung is an SL property developer and may very well become SL ‘s first billionaire with $250 million Linden which translates into $1 million dollars in real world.
One of the great advantages of virtual life is its usefulness to the disabilities keeping contact with the society. Some of the hospitals have been using VW technology to allow bed-ridden patients to get around without leaving their beds.
Researchers and ethnographers have ventured into worlds like Second Life to interview and study the inhabitants. The use of VW in education has grown considerably over the past year from developing civic participation and leadership skills, visualizing real time weather data, modelling complex mathematical functions, and experimenting with architectural models to creating stage dramas.
Fredrick Ishengoma is an academician in the University Of Dodoma, Tanzania.
www.ishengoma.com
